Almost a year ago, Becky came to me with the desire to lose fat mass. As with every client, as I talk with them, get to know them, their background information, you get an idea as to what their journey is going to look like. You can get a good feel for how long it’ll take and how hard it will be. Some clients have established very good exercise and food habits – they just need their personal metabolic information so they can stay within the correct caloric boundaries for them to get results. Others, have had a very different life experience and sadly, have created and cemented beliefs about themselves that you KNOW are going to be a challenge to change and take time to rewrite new beliefs.
I’m sure there are many trainers out there that could relate when I say; when a client with a history of poor belief habits comes to you and says – “I want to lose 10 lbs in one month, how long will it really take? Can I do that in a month?” You want to say yes! But you know the truth – you know, that their habits are 1000 times stronger than their desire and will. You know that our actions, all our doings, habits are a function of the subconscious not the conscious mind. You know that the client in front of you identifies themselves with their conscious mind – and believes that once they KNOW the information, understand it, have the tools they need, that they will automatically DO what they know they need to do and you also know that the process of changing habits, thought habits, belief habits – takes MUCH longer than a month. This is why you (the client) have started and stopped health and fitness programs and diets, dozens of times.
If you have a good trainer – they understand that to reach your goal is a journey, not something that happens overnight. The job of a trainer requires far more than just standing next to your clients and counting their reps for them – or just giving them a great workout. If that is all you are getting from your trainer – a good chat and someone to count your reps, FIND A NEW TRAINER! A good trainer knows that you are about to go on a journey – a journey of changing beliefs, changing thought habits, changing physical habits. They know that their work with you is more about rewriting these beliefs that have been created and cemented over years – than it is about getting you to lose a fat pound.
So – back to Becky, a year ago she stood in my office with me, feeling very vulnerable. As she shared her story with me – she had tears in her eyes. I could feel her sadness so strongly that is was impossible to hold back my own tears. I knew Becky was going to be a fun and rewarding journey and I was honored she chose me to take it with her.
Becky is now in the throes of the neural reconditioning phase. She has made HUGE strides and I’m so proud of her and who she has become. She has made fantastic progress. As she has been doing a lot of self reflecting, trying to understand what beliefs she’s created about herself and why – but mostly how she is going to move forward creating the new beliefs she really wants, she came to our group class one morning with the idea that she might be more successful if she had more people enrolled in her journey to lose weight. (meaning the people in the group class) I thought that was a great idea and asked her if we could take it one step further and do it over the blog. Ha ha, yes – I’m aware that posting her health and fitness journey on the internet for all to see is more that one step further – more like 10!! But – the trooper she is – agreed with the idea and is willing to let everyone into her private world of thoughts, feelings and experiences.
I invite you all to follow her through her very real and very raw experiences, encourage her, cheer her on – and possibly relate to her. I hope you get to experience the same feeling I experience every time someone hires me as their trainer, their coach, to see them through their journey however short or long – that it is a complete honor.